The attitude of mother-father is the form of interaction between mother, father and the child. The result of this form of child interaction is that the child establishes new communication and responses towards parental behavior and attitudes.
From birth the child receives the greatest support from it’s mother and father when he is surrounded by their physical and social environment. He learns self-expression, self-governing (autonomous) and to be an individual from his family. Parents have a fundamental role in the formation of the child's personality models. In order to be able to respond to a child’s needs appropriately, mothers and fathers must be able to communicate with the child from birth.
1.THE DEMOCRATIC PARENTAL APPROACH
The democratic parental approach means respect , love and tolerance in their mutual relationship that is also applied to their children who are accepted by the family as equal individuals.
Both spouses clearly express their opinions to each other and to their children. They don’t blame each other. All criticism from the outside therefore refers to the behaviour of the child rather than the personality.
Home and community rules are explained to the children. Parents are the role models for their children. Children are free within set limits. Parents listen to their children giving importance to what they say and trying to understand their problems.
2. REJECTIVE PARENTING STYLE
The “Rejective Parenting Style” is that in which parents neglect the good aspects and behaviors of their children and instead focus only on the negative. Rejected children are often treated differently from other children as a result of this. They are sometimes disliked and always complained about by others for whatever they do. This “incorrect behavior” or misbehavior, is then investigated and scrutinized by the outside world. Every opportunity is used to put pressure on the child.
It is therefore impossible for the child to form a healthy self -image once they have been trained in this manner of which they feel anything they do is viewed as “bad”. He will not find himself feeling loved and being worthy of praise. He has to learn life on his own because he has no apparent role model helping him learn to behave well.
3. ATTITUDES OF AUTHORITARIAN PARENTS
Parents that show authoritarian attitudes, demonstrate a strict, repressive, intolerant and perfectionist demeanor because they act with the idea of transforming their child into the person they idealize. They expect a level of maturity above the age of the child, and show no tolerance for mistakes.
Their only focal point is the child and its behavior. Every action is observed to the minuscule details; every smallest mistake receives an attempt at correction. The parent is in a state of constant stress and is almost always excited because the parent gravitates to error correction only. The child as well lives under constant stress and anxiety for fear of committing mistakes. This anxiety probably causes the child make even more mistakes and results with the child being subjected to constant criticism, scolding, to receive punishments disproportional to the mistakes and sometimes leads to the child being subjected to violence.
4. INCONSISTENCY IN PARENTING
Inconsistent parenting means that parents don’t follow the rules they have set. They sometimes accept wrong behavior and show tolerance to their children but sometimes punish them for the same behavior.
If parents are too tolerant the child doesn’t understand what to do and is confused. In case of punishment the child prefers the parent who is more tolerant.
Inconsistency causes stress, confusion and anxiety. Both parents should set the same rules and react in the same way so that the child can understand the difference between the right and wrong. The parents shouldn’t criticize each other in front of their children and should show a perfect agreement.